S1E2 - The One When Dinner Was Shared With a Rat (Sort Of)

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This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only. The opinions and personal stories shared are not a substitute for professional therapy, diagnosis, or treatment. Paula is not a licensed mental health professional. If you're struggling, please reach out to a qualified provider or mental health resource near you. hey, friend, and welcome to Life Kit Unplugged by everyone Pilates, a place where we get real about life, emotions, and the beautiful chaos in between. I'm your host Paula, a Christian wife, mom, Pilates instructor, recovering perfectionist, and someone who just wants to make mental health normal to talk about without you feeling like a therapy session. Each week I sit down with the guest and we unpack what keeps us going, what takes us out, and what's inside our emotional survival kit. Quick reminder, this podcast is not therapy or medical advice. We're just here to share stories left hard, maybe cry a little and remind you that you're not alone. So grab your coffee, go for that walk or hide in the bathroom from your kids just for a little bit. So let's get into it.

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Paula: 2:11

My guest today is someone I absolutely adore. She is an incredible chef, an event planner who's worked in the glamorous scenes of Miami and New York, but what I love the most. Is her heart. She stayed humble, kind and real. Even with all the status and the spotlight. We started Pilates as a teacher and client turned into friends. And now, even after I moved away, we still do sessions online so today we are digging into her life. The spices, the events, the self-care, and the secret ingredient that keeps her grounded. Hi, Rosita. Hi. Thank you. I love this. I'm so excited.

Rosa: 3:01

I love this. I'm nervous.

Paula: 3:03

Too bad they can't see our face. Anything you wanna say before we start? Anything you wanna say about yourself a little intro now from your end? And we'll hit question one,

Rosa (2): 3:18

thank you for having me. I'm honored. I honor the, a duration is mutual for sure. Mm-hmm. You have been such a big part of. My growth in the past year, so thank you for having me. I'm so excited.

Paula: 3:32

All right, so let's start with the spices. You've built a career in two of the most intense cities, Miami and New York, and in food and events, what's kept you grounded through all of that?

Rosa (2): 3:49

What's kept me grounded? I think the fact that I keep learning has always been something that keeps me very close to myself. I don't know everything, even though sometimes I think I do, but every new adventure, every new job, every new coworker, friend, I keep learning. Even though I've worked in very prestigious restaurants or caterings. I keep learning even from the people that work at places that are so much more simple than mine. So yeah, it keeps my feet on the ground for sure.

Paula: 4:33

Where does your passion for cooking came from? Is there a story or a person back in El Salvador who planted that seed?

Rosa (2): 4:43

Definitely my great-grandmother. I always get this question asked. There really isn't anybody else other than her that really gave me the sentiment of. Togetherness through food. My great-grandmother her name was Rosa too.

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Mm.

Rosa (2): 5:03

Taita. We would have lunch with her every Saturdays and every time we would come to her home, all these women, because my mom's side of the family, they're all women. Mm-hmm. So we would get to her place she would always be in the kitchen. We would walk in and everyone's like, hi, hi, hi. They go into the kitchen, they say hi to her. And they would just get out of the kitchen and go do their own thing, to the living room or the dining room and chitchat with everyone. Of course, a house full of women, and I would always stick in the kitchen. I would be like, what are you doing? How do you do that? I would love to eat at her place and I would ask. I was so curious about it. And even though nobody else thinks that she was very patient. I felt like she was very patient with me. She would wanna tell me about it, and then this is how we do this, and now we cut this and this she wouldn't let me. Cut anything but wash the vegetables and just keep watching or stay here. And whenever we would sit at the table, most of the times I would be sitting very next to her, like very close to her at the table. And she would ask me, only, nobody else. How is it, do you like it? Can you feel this? It would warm my heart. I didn't expect it to then become what it is now. There was this feeling that grew from that and then the happiness and joy that cooking brought to me would always bring me back to that. I would dream big, but I never thought that I would get this far in my career, but also really doing it, or at least today, doing it in a way where I'm not sacrificing so much about me working at restaurants or the hospitality industry. People don't tell me you're not gonna have a life. You're gonna have weird schedules but when you're in it, you don't even think, oh, it's Friday night and I'm stuck in the kitchen. Obviously then it takes a to your body and it's another story, but. I didn't mind it when I was doing it. Now that I know what work life balance is I don't wanna go back to that. Yeah. When you're doing, it's just a joy that it brings too.

Paula: 7:16

What came to mind when you were telling about your grandmother was that maybe she experienced you came with curiosity. So with you, she was patient. Because she saw that you were generally interested in learning. And curious about what she was doing so she felt seen. I don't know. Think so. I can only imagine. All right. Question two. When you're creating an event or a dish, how much of you, your heritage and your emotions goes into it?

Rosa (2): 7:49

Heritage depends. All of me.

Audio Only - All Participants: 7:53

Hmm.

Rosa (2): 7:54

This is one of the things why I don't think there's certain recipes and there's friends or family that will tell you this, but there's certain dishes that I always make, it's like a signature dish.

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Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 8:07

They never taste the same one way or another. It's never oh my God, this is just like, I remembered it. Especially when I'm cooking at home for work, there's so much creativity, but I have to think about many different elements that have to go to make sure that it's successful to make sure that this can be repeated and it, for it to have consistency.

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Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 8:30

And to look beautiful and attractive to the eye but when I'm cooking at home. It's more of the feeling

Audio Only - All Participants: 8:36

mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 8:37

I'm pouring into the food. So it almost reflects your emotion of that day? Definitely. Oh, a hundred percent. There's a point where there's a calm in the storm.

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Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 8:52

cause cooking does calm me down a lot. But there is, a story, there's so many flavors. There's brightness, there's a little bit of spice in there. Of course. All of me goes into my food for sure.

Paula: 9:04

Mm-hmm. You're so humble and kind even with all your success, has there ever been a time when you felt your status could change or others treated you differently because of it?

Rosa (2): 9:17

it's difficult to answer because regardless of what people think or how they treat me, I keep true to myself. People can have their opinions. People can think whatever they want. In a way, you feel it, it burns a little.

Audio Only - All Participants: 9:33

Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 9:34

But then I'm like. No, let's go. Can't control that. Obviously also being in a kitchen, as cliche as this might sound the women versus the men, but it's true. Especially me being in these very high intensity kitchens with very masculine. Full of ego, men, chefs, I've always had to fight a little bit more and also care, a little bit less care, a little bit less. Yeah. Even though I don't care less, I would go cry in the locker room after and just feel like crap later, but I couldn't show them that

Audio Only - All Participants: 10:15

mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 10:16

I always had to be stronger and just act like I didn't care at the end of the day, I've always had to put that in the back of my head, just keep moving, because if you don't, they're going to eat you alive.

Paula: 10:25

Yeah.

Rosa (2): 10:26

That will keep you humble for sure. Oh, for sure.

Paula: 10:28

Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 10:29

Oh yeah.

Paula: 10:31

We met through Pilates. What role does movement play in your mental health kit right now?

Rosa (2): 10:37

Everything. I have never been the type of person that would ever think of movement or exercise to feel better. To me, it has always been, exercise is painful. Exercise is you get tired, don't want to do it. It's the one thing that. Would always win against me. I feel like Pilates showed me strength in every way. Not just my muscles, but it was something that I had never done before until I met you, I was also going through a rough patch when I met you, and it was a bit of an escape. It was something new. It was something that I started being curious about. It kept my mind busy mm-hmm. Thinking about something else. That wasn't everything that was happening around me. And then just seeing how after maybe a month or a month and a half in, if I wouldn't do it, how much I would miss it and how much my body was asking for it.

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Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 11:47

It was something very curious to me because I had never felt anything like that before. I would catch myself doing certain movements, even when I was sitting down, but it was like my body asking for that stretch or for that, just like crack the hip for, like do something. And it really made me realize that movement. Brings you so much more than just movement. I could feel how much of a better mood I was in. Oh, that's a good one. I definitely felt like it, it was in incred, like I, once I was done, all of the endorphins or I don't know what it is. Everything just, the day was brighter. I have more energy. I felt there was an adrenaline that wasn't there before. We hadn't been doing Pilates for two and a half months and my body was crying for it. I couldn't wait to get back to Miami. And get my routine back.

Audio Only - All Participants: 12:46

Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 12:47

And the thing that I miss the most wasn't so much the routine of being home and cooking. It was more of okay, I need to get back on Pilates. I need to do this. I just didn't feel like I was doing anything, after the last class I was like, well, we are back.

Paula: 13:03

I

Rosa (2): 13:03

was like, we're back. We're

Paula: 13:04

definitely back. Have you ever felt completely burned out, like the creative spark went out in the kitchen or at work? How did you get it back?

Rosa (2): 13:18

I was so burnt out. I quit my job six months and disconnected completely from it. Even though cooking has always brought so much joy, and it is my passion, really. There was a moment where I was like, I don't wanna do this anymore. It was a weird feeling. I was like what else am I gonna do? I don't see myself doing anything else. I know I'm capable of doing other things and learning, but nothing would give me the same joy.

Audio Only - All Participants: 13:46

Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 13:47

So I've definitely been burnt out. I think I was using my creativity more in problem solving, in thinking on my feet, like constantly. It wasn't the artistic creativity that was coming out.

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Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 14:01

And once I paused and I said, I can't do this anymore, I gave them a lot of time to get a plan together. And I was like, okay, my last day is October 31st. And once I stopped, I slept for the next three full days, after that all of the artistic. Creativity just started to come back using our creativity for anything else here it is, all the colors, all the flavors, all the spices. Keep cooking. Yeah. Um, sounds

Paula: 14:32

like, what happened there was from what you said, that your body was exhausted in a technical tasks. And not sleeping, just accumulated so much exhaustion that you couldn't even see the pleasure of doing what you love doing the most. The body exhaustion. Became so much bigger than the pleasure of cooking that I had to take a step back and regroup.

Rosa (2): 15:07

Yeah, for sure. My body couldn't do it anymore. I was starting to go crazy. It wasn't fun

Paula: 15:13

What's something you've learned about friendship? Especially since we've kept ours alive from different states and screens?

Rosa (2): 15:20

I thought friendships were the easy relationships.

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Mm.

Rosa (2): 15:28

And I have found that they're not. They're just like every other relationship. You have to put the work in it. It's beautiful to have friendships that you can say, oh, we haven't seen each other, or we haven't talked to each other for a really long time. And you call them or you see them six months later and it's just like you're picking up.

Audio Only - All Participants: 15:52

Yeah.

Rosa (2): 15:53

That's great. I mean, yes you can, but it's a relationship. A friendship is a relationship. You have to take care of it. You have to water it.

Paula: 16:04

Yeah.

Rosa (2): 16:05

Regardless of you're a bonai that needs watering every day, or you're a cactus mm-hmm. That you need water once a month. You still have to water them. I now understand it, but I also understand that most people don't see it this way and just take friendships for granted. They're just like, oh, well they're gonna be there anyway. And it's like. Yeah, but then you blink and a year has passed and you haven't talked to that person. You don't know what they're doing or what they're going through, or you haven't been there for them or they haven't been there for you. Friendships are another relationship that you just have to take care. They need time, and then you can't take for granted

Paula: 16:47

For sure. If it's a constant. Communication. If we're talking to each other consistently, that's one level of the friendship that stays alive. But when it's just that few months passes by and you're, oh my God, and you give that glimpse of an update, it's almost like looking at the person's Instagram and seeing the highlights. You don't really know. There's not enough. Information from the few months that went by for you to actually see their struggles, their soul, the good things. I love this when you feel homesick for El Salvador, how do you bring it closer? Is it a meal, a phone call, a memory?

Rosa (2): 17:40

That's a easy answer. It's actually yes, but the first thing I do is call my grandma from my dad's side. Oh, not Rosita? No. Well, Rosita's not with us anymore. I'm very close to both of my grandmothers, but. Don't tell my other grandma. I hope she doesn't hear this podcast, but there is a very special, unique connection with my grandmother from my dad's side. We're soulmates for sure.

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Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 18:15

So whenever I am super homesick, I call her, we chitchat for a little bit. Now it's a little different'cause she has Alzheimer's and our conversations are not the same.

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Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 18:25

But as soon as I would hang up, I would go and cook something. Even if it's just a tortilla with beans and cheese on top, you know.

Paula: 18:32

Yeah.

Rosa (2): 18:33

Comforts me.

Paula: 18:34

I would think so.

Rosa (2): 18:35

Yeah.

Paula: 18:37

What's a moment when you really, surprised yourself when you thought, well, I didn't know I was this strong. Wow.

Rosa (2): 18:47

I always joke about this with my friends. Sometimes I'll have them over for dinner and we're eating and I take the first bite and I'm like, oh my gosh, this is so good. I surprise myself. I'm pretty proud of myself, to be honest. Against all odds, I, always go for what I want. My move to New York has been one of the biggest, the fact that I was working, living rent free here in Miami. Living with family, everything was good. I had my job, but I knew that I wanted to go to New York and everyone was telling me, it's so expensive. Life in New York is so difficult there was everybody's opinion and I would be, well, I don't care. I'll figure it out. I remember telling my parents, and especially my mom always knew. She was like, she's somehow gonna get there. When I told my dad, I was like, Hey, I think I'm gonna move to New York. And he immediately looked at me and he was and who gave you permission? Hmm, no, I'm not asking for permission. I'm telling you I'm moving there. And he was well if you wanna go, you're on your own. I'm not gonna help you, no help. Thinking that would make me say, okay, maybe I shouldn't go. Well, nope. Fast forward five months later, my dad is dropping me off in New York City.

Paula: 20:04

Oh, yummy.

Rosa (2): 20:07

I love that. But I think he went over there just to make sure that. I was actually moving to New York and I didn't have an apartment yet. He just kind of wanted to see that this was real and that I was making the move. Once he left, it was like, okay, I'm leaving you. And that's what it was. I started working up to his word, a hundred percent, thinking he would prove me wrong. I was making minimum wage at a very fancy French restaurant in New York City, and everyone was telling me do you have roommates already? Are you looking for a place I was like, I don't wanna have roommates. And everyone's like, you're gonna have to have roommates in New York. It's so expensive. Started looking at apartments. I saw this one apartment and. Was this can be perfect. It had a large bedroom. Everything else was super tiny. The bedroom had a lot of light. Everything else was pretty dark. Okay, I'll take it. I didn't think of everything else other than rent that I had to pay. Oh, no. I was like, okay, that's fine. Until this day I still don't know how I. Survived. I don't know how. I lived in the same apartment for the five years that I lived in New York. Never had roommates. I paid it on my own electricity. Internet. Groceries and I still had money to go out and have fun. I love that there was endless pockets somewhere in my life, the tooth fairy or some sort of fairy. I know my bank account and I was like, how? Now? Obviously in the moment I didn't think about it was just like, keep it moving, keep working. Keep pushing. But when I moved out of New York and I saw. How expensive and challenging. Life is in New York City. I don't know how I did that, but for five years I did it.

Paula: 22:00

I blame it in the not knowing. I think that sometimes, not knowing all those details, don't scare you. So you don't go already expecting because you don't know that that's a possibility and you just work with what you know and what you know is that it's possible so you get it. Exactly.

Rosa (2): 22:19

I think if I would've known all of those details before moving there, maybe I wouldn't have moved there.

Paula: 22:25

I say the same thing

Rosa (2): 22:25

So I went to my interview to this restaurant. And when I was there, I went to this bar with my cousin that was living there. She was telling them oh, she's moving to New York and the bartender's super nice. Said, you know, there's three things that will happen to you. In New York City for sure. It's like you'll cry in the snow.

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Hmm?

Rosa (2): 22:49

You'll get locked out. Yeah. Did you? I did. I got locked out. I cried in the snow, cried, this cold wind blowing in my face. I feel like my tears got frozen the minute that they started coming down. I remember just sitting on the steps to the walkup that I lived in. Just sat there and started crying and was like, this can't be happening to me.

Paula: 23:19

That's a Carrie Bradshaw moment.

Rosa (2): 23:21

I love it. Truly, it does happen. I was locked out, it was freezing cold. I was tired., It was one 30 in the morning'cause I had just left the restaurant and noticed that I didn't have my keys calling a locksmith. And then them telling me that they were charging me$200 to open up the door. I'm leaving New York and I had only been there for three months.

Paula: 23:43

What's the third thing? He said three things.

Rosa (2): 23:45

Cry in the snow. You're gonna get locked out of your apartment and you will most likely eat a meal next to a rat. For sure. Did that happen? Oh yeah. Also, oh, no. To bark all the time eating a sandwich. The rat was sitting right next to me on a bench and I go, gross. It was disgusting, but it's New York City. They're everywhere.

Paula: 24:08

Oh, I love New York. I don't know if I would ever want to live there, but, oh, I go there every year. There's something about that city. My daughter and I, love going there to visit.

Rosa (2): 24:20

It's an energy thing. I think there is an energy again. For sure. It recharges you. Yes, let's go.

Paula: 24:27

Yeah. And I've been in different seasons, so it still didn't scare me being in winter or summer or spring, and I don't really do anything, extra ordinary Central Park. Times Square renting a bike and biking around. But there is definitely an energy there. I love New York.

Rosa: 24:49

Yeah.

Paula: 24:50

If you could put an event just for you now, no clients, no cameras, what would it look like and who would be there?

Rosa (2): 24:59

Who would be there? Friends and family only, truly good close friends and family. Maybe not all of the family, some of the family closest friends.

Paula: 25:12

Maybe I should do this like, dead or alive. Dead or alive. I'm just changing it as I ask the question to make it harder on you.

Rosa (2): 25:21

Dead or alive? I think that even, like I could tell you a celebrity or a famous chef, but I don't know them. If I could choose a live, there wouldn't be anybody more special there than my great-grandmother and my grandfather there. You know, like I wouldn't care about anybody else.

Paula: 25:38

Yeah. Rosita would definitely be there.

Rosa (2): 25:41

My grandpa would be there. Oh, she would be so proud. And yeah. Can you imagine like, I would love to, can you imagine her just laugh and be like, oh my God, do you remember when I was a kid, and I was in your kitchen and now I'm in these crazy, fancy kitchens. Yeah. I want disco balls and champagne everywhere. That's it. I'm with you on sunrise, fries. Oh yeah.

Paula: 26:02

Like, a chocolate cake tall. Oh, yes. Amen to that. Share a few influencers that help to shape your thinking, like for example, books or a TV show or a podcast. Like something that, like Paula Moin. Oh gosh. Thank you.

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I kept

Paula: 26:23

shaping your glutes and your thighs and your thoughts and abs, all of them. So more of like your personality, who you are today. Of course, Rita. Let's keep her alive here.'cause she shaped your whole career and your passion. But something else, like a book TV show or podcast. That's always something that. Keeps coming back to your mind when you were doing life.

Rosa (2): 26:54

I think, Mel Robbins has, I love how she talks to me like it's,

Paula: 27:03

is that the one from the, let them.

Rosa (2): 27:05

yes.

Paula: 27:06

Oh yeah. The let them theory uhhuh

Rosa (2): 27:09

Uhhuh. Um, I, I have a couple of therapist friends and every time I bring her up they're like, ah, I can't stand, if you knew all of this, why didn't you share it with us before, you know, before Mel Robins did that for all of us. And just put it out there and very easily just,

Paula: 27:25

She has a very, not simple'cause, it's not simple, but she did simplified the concept. She simplified

Rosa: 27:31

Yes.

Paula: 27:32

I loved her book too.

Rosa (2): 27:34

Yeah. She let me understand without feeling like. It was literally how she says in her podcast, it's like, it's your friend Mel. Like it literally felt like it was a conversation to me and telling me, every time I would hear her podcast, she would literally be talking about something that I was going through.

Audio Only - All Participants: 27:53

Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 27:54

So it felt very approachable and easy to understand and it's so powerful the message that she has for,

Audio Only - All Participants: 28:02

mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 28:03

Even though, most therapists she's not a therapist, so she communicated to us.

Paula: 28:08

It's not like a new concept Exactly. Back to technical. But she made it accessible, but she made it. Yeah, she did. She made it very easy to apply. I would say it's like you don't feel like you need a PhD to understand and understand share Uhhuh. Yeah.

Rosa (2): 28:26

She's, I think she's definitely my favorite podcast right now. Good

Paula: 28:29

one. Good one. Now, what is in Your Life Kit? Name five items that if you are in a mental health crisis, your go-to things that you know will work and get you out of there.

Rosa (2): 28:49

Not staying by myself, I think. Okay. Community, community, like keeping it fresh. I definitely feel like that has helped me so much. Finding a new friend learning something new talking to friends you haven't spoken to in a bit, or your family. So definitely community is a very essential space in my box. That's one. I think also. Talking to, I mean, people could journal. I talk to myself. Okay. That's a good one too. That has also helped. And just therapy has also been, another one. And also just keeping, I don't know, maybe, and this might go with the second one, but just letting myself know that everything will pass, you know, there's more coming. Whether it's give yourself grace, like giving myself grace and just keeping myself. True to whatever is happening, going to the reality and not the fantasy keeping it real, I think. And the other one maybe traveling right now, just yeah. Think I I right now, I just have to keep. Busy or keep doing something new or going to places'cause if not, I'm going to go crazy if I stay in the same room.

Paula: 30:21

No. When your job is in the kitchen. Most of the time. So, of course exploring new environments, stepping out of that space where you spend most of your time at, makes sense you would wanna go. To recharge and regroup. Anything that came to mind during our talk that was not said, but you would like to share about you?

Audio Only - All Participants: 30:50

Hmm.

Rosa (2): 30:51

I don't know. Um, help me out here. Probably there was something that came up. I can go back to it. I guess if you have another question, you can come back to this one.

Paula: 31:06

This question came from a place like, there was a part of the conversation that brought up another topic or another, insight that we moved on to the next question, and you just didn't get that out. But it's something about you that it's important if someone is relating to you to know about you.

Rosa (2): 31:33

I feel like we could keep talking for hours. For sure. And we could go back and things keep coming, but we have,

Paula: 31:41

yeah.

Rosa (2): 31:41

Agenda. Well, we can

Paula: 31:43

always come back and have a part too,

Rosa (2): 31:45

but I think from everything we've talked about now, if there's, and I think I've said it various times, but putting the emphasis in it. Of just keeping it moving. Mm-hmm. Keep keeping, keep it. Yeah. Because the other day a friend of mine said something like, standing still makes you spiral when things are not moving, they go down the drain so just keep it moving, keep it moving in mind. Mm-hmm.

Paula: 32:19

Pilate, mind, soul, everything.

Rosa (2): 32:21

Keep it moving. I love

Paula: 32:22

that. Yeah. So the last, guest, left you a question and then when we turn off the recording, you're gonna leave a question for the next guest and she left you a question that I asked to her and she was. Curious to know about you. If you came with a label or a warning, what would it say? Imagine you are a bottle and there is a sticker in the back that gives people a warning or a question,

Rosa: 32:53

not.

Paula: 32:55

Spicy. Okay. I loved it. I guess that was a good answer. We're gonna jump into the life kit lightning round, so you don't have time to think on this one. You have to say the first thing that comes to your mind. Okay. I love this. Ready? Last Amazon purchase. Chickpeas food. Oh, chickpea is my bunny. People would be like, what? Second question, one ingredient you always have in your fridge.

Rosa (2): 33:28

Butter.

Paula: 33:29

Butter. Oh my gosh. Can't live without butter. Worst kitchen fail ever. Oh my God. I could tell by your face something came to mind.

Rosa (2): 33:42

Formula one, my first Formula one, Miami PETA Club.

Paula: 33:46

Mm.

Rosa (2): 33:47

Yeah, that was,

Paula: 33:49

I lived that one around, so I remember. Yeah. Question four. Do you want to elaborate? No. Let's

Rosa: 33:58

Let's just

Paula: 33:58

Question four. Last time you washed your car.

Rosa (2): 34:02

I haven't been in Miami for three weeks, but I watched before I left, so three weeks ago.

Paula: 34:07

Well, last time you used, that's pretty good. I wouldn't have an answer. I have no idea. When was the last time I watched it? Actually, I do. My husband washed it. I don't remember when, but that was last time my car saw water. How long does your toilet paper last? Maybe a week. A week. I guess this also depends what brand you buy.'cause some rollers are, you know, much bigger than others.

Rosa: 34:36

Love the cotton, no ultra softer, whatever that's called. I freaking love it.

Paula: 34:41

I need to rethink this question six. What's something in your fridge right now? You could make dinner with no grocery run.

Rosa (2): 34:52

I actually have. A couple of things in the freezer and, no groceries. I could make a really nice pasta.

Audio Only - All Participants: 35:04

Hmm.

Rosa (2): 35:04

I have to go grocery shopping.

Rosa: 35:06

I haven't been for three weeks.

Rosa (2): 35:09

But I know that's the timing for this question. I could make a really nice rice dish. I have veggies. I have chicken in the freezer.

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Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 35:18

My favorite milk and cereal

Paula: 35:22

breakfast. Ugh. There's breakfast for dinner. My favorite, my favorite. Cracker Barrel. Mm. Who's your flat tire person? The one you would call at 2:00 AM if you broke down? I don't have that anymore, you know? Because I asked this question everybody has an answer to, and I'm like, is anybody gonna say like Triple A that was my answer actually. Yeah, progressive. I guess, we don't have somebody to call, but I don't wanna bother. I would always first go to something that I could just figure it out myself but that's a me thing, I

Rosa (2): 36:05

think. I mean, if it was at 2:00 AM maybe I would try to do it, like call some, I don't know.

Paula: 36:14

Yeah.

Rosa (2): 36:15

My tire. One 800, fix my tire. Um, yeah, I, yeah. Yeah. No.

Paula: 36:25

Okay. The dish that makes you feel at home?

Rosa (2): 36:32

I have a couple, it is on my death row meals, I have five, I pick one. But, Christmas, Turkey, my mom the best.

Paula: 36:43

What's your guilty pleasure meal when no one's watching? They can watch me or they can't

Rosa (2): 36:50

let them. Let them, them. Um, chocolate. Just pure chocolate. Like the bar Chocolate. Chocolate. Like chocolate cake. Chocolate ice cream. If it's chocolate cake with chocolate ice cream on. Oh, even better. Give me all the chocolate.

Paula: 37:09

Mm.

Rosa (2): 37:10

All of it.

Paula: 37:11

I like that it's leches or that's bar cheesecake from Cheesecake Factory. Ugh, yum, yum. Biggest culture shock moment when you moved to the us.

Audio Only - All Participants: 37:26

Huh.

Rosa (2): 37:28

Coming from a country back then where you weren't really safe.

Audio Only - All Participants: 37:36

Hmm.

Rosa (2): 37:37

And then coming here I moved to Rhode Island. The first city that I lived in was Rhode Island.'cause that's where I went to college. But I think that liberty of being able to walk out your door or coming back from a party at three in the morning, walking with you and another friend, like two girls on the street, uh. That I was like, wow, I can do this here.

Paula: 38:02

That's a good culture shock then.

Rosa (2): 38:04

Yeah, it was a good one. A positive

Paula: 38:05

experience.

Rosa (2): 38:06

Yeah.

Paula: 38:07

Well, before we go, if anyone wants to contact you or know more about you, where would you like them to go?

Rosa (2): 38:15

Well, you can follow me on Instagram. I have two of them. Roma Moola 10 for all of my Life Adventures. But then I also have another one that's the at Chef in season, where I post off food and kind of everything that I'm doing food wise. So, yeah, say the first one again. Roma Moola 10. Spell it. R-O-M-A-M-O-L-A. Okay. And the second. And the second one is chef in season. So Chef.

Audio Only - All Participants: 38:53

Mm-hmm.

Rosa (2): 38:54

I-N-S-E-A-N-O-S. Mm-hmm. I guess, I can't spell in season. Yeah, that's where you can get hungry by looking at my pictures. Oh

Paula: 39:06

yeah. Yum. Yum. Okay. Anything else you would like to share before we close?

Rosa (2): 39:13

I love this. Can we do a podcast every week?

Paula: 39:16

Oh, we could. I am really enjoying this. You have?

Rosa: 39:21

I love this

Paula: 39:21

I can only imagine it will keep getting better because. With, each episode, you learn at least one way of doing it better for the next. So I am very expectant and hopeful for what this platform will mean to, me and everyone involved.

Rosa (2): 39:41

I think you're killing it.

Paula: 39:42

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